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April 2015
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Do You Know How Others 'See' You?
Knowing your strengths and limitations is one thing, but understanding how others see you is another matter. Your peers are often less than forthcoming with the hard truths about your behaviors and actions. In fact, one study found over-assertive people are far less likely to get constructive feedback on their behavior. Being ignorant or indifferent of how you are perceived can also result in problems ranging from a lack of credibility to unnecessarily rocky relationships—both personal and professional. Here are five suggestions that can help you become more self-aware: Ask the right people for feedback, targeting those who won't just tell you what you want to hear. Be sincere about wanting the truth, and let others know you will handle any criticism as positive feedback. An executive coach can also be useful for getting an independent opinion. Ask the right questions, and stick with appropriate topics. For instance, if you’re a salesperson you might want to know if you're seen as trustworthy, but if you're a leader you might want to know if you're seen as motivating. Think in terms of the skills necessary to achieve your goals as these are the areas where self-awareness will matter most. Be and look receptive. You may have explicitly invited people to "fire away" with criticism, but if you cross your arms and roll your eyes—even if it's unintentional—people will censor their opinions around you. If you don't want a watered-down version of the truth, your body language must correspond with your open door policy. Don't be defensive. When following up with the people who gave you feedback, never defend or make excuses for yourself—that is a recipe for short-circuiting your self-awareness and defeating trust. Start with, "This is what I'm hearing," and then encourage them to expand on how your behavior is perceived. Finally, take a concrete step toward self-awareness. You could contact an executive coach, talk to a role model about how they "check" themselves, or enlist a trusted confidant to keep you at task. Start small by honing in on one trait that you'd like to improve, and build from there. Perception doesn't have to be your reality and you'll be happy when you've banished your blind spots! Source: WSJ.com | ||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
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